Frequently Asked Questions

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With Flower Essences, you are supported between sessions. This is unique.

But during our Zoom calls, yes, there is some mentoring and coaching going on.

I combine the best of coaching, mentoring, and healing, with the fluff omitted.

It can help to delineate the differences between coaches, mentors and healers.

A COACH is someone who can help you see what you’re not seeing, similar to a sports coach.

Coaching differs from mental health therapy in that a coach does not diagnose you with a condition or begin helping you from the assumption that there’s something wrong that needs fixing. Coaching starts from the assumption that you have your own answers and wisdom.

My coaching method uses inquiry to help you untangle the errors and limits in your thinking and beliefs so that you can create different outcomes in your life. I am certified by both the Life Coach School and Bev Aron’s Advanced Deep Dive Coaching institute. I have additional hours of training in Psychodrama.

My speciality is getting you to the place where your limiting beliefs just become completely obsolete, replaced with the truth. And I love it when someone thinks they’re a “hard case.”

A MENTOR is someone who generally gives good advice and instruction on WHAT to do. A mentor has walked in the same or similar shoes. A mentor gives advice from her personal experience, and inspires you to more. “If she can do it, I can do it too.”

I include mentoring with many of my clients who need specific strategies and conversation scripts for conflicts or power struggles at work, or in their romantic relationship.

My advice and strategies for how to handle difficult conversations and situations are based on 17 years working in high-conflict patriarchal environments.

I can teach you how to also be powerful in similar situations or places, while remaining authentic.

I can help you powerfully navigate anything you have going on at work or at home and, most critically, learn how to be more influential so that your experiences with these other folks change dramatically over time.

  A HEALER helps you remember the truth of your wholeness and power. If you have ever experienced frustration that you had a therapy or coaching session, or went to a workshop, but the positive effect didn’t last, it is because these approaches gave you great things to think about intellectually, but didn’t shift you on an energetic level.

The body stores emotions. You can try to talk yourself into a new positive belief all you want, but without energetic support, it may not stick, or it may take a whole lot longer. This is the experience many smart women have when they do years of therapy, or a multitude of different personal development courses, but remain very frustrated and stuck in one or more areas of their lives.

This is why I offer energetic and spiritual healing as the centerpiece, supported by coaching and mentoring. Flower Essences are vibrational remedies that support you between coaching/mentoring sessions and help you believe new things about yourself not just intellectually, but on a gut level that you can feel. This can make for more rapid transformation. You can read more about Flower Essences here.

I totally remember feeling that way. I can say that working with someone who combines coaching, mentoring and energy healing helps you grow and evolve much faster than you could on your own. 


And if you are reading this, you might have been trying lots of different things for many years to manage stress, overcome unhappiness, or manifest your soulmate or some other dream.


“Doing it on our own” is what many of us smart women try to do, for years, because we think somehow we’re weak or will look dumb if we ask for help. And then we make ourselves wrong when we’re still struggling after all our effort.


Some smart women try to intellectualize their way through the pain of unfulfillment, and look to their careers to fill a void. “I worked so hard for this achievement, why am I so unhappy?” 


And then they look around and wonder why there is no mentoring or support where they work.


Unfortunately, many workplaces are stuck in old patriarchal ways of doing things, where women are afraid that some other woman is going to take their seat at the table, leaving all the women isolated and guarded.


My mission is to uplift women and normalize the feminine values of collaboration, cooperation and support as traits showing strength and empowerment, and not as a sign of weakness. Reaching out for help is an empowered thing for you to do.

Many women find that continuously repeating their negative stories in conventional mental health therapy doesn’t do anything to shift the results in their life.


And…often, they are tired of being smarter than their therapist. Know what I mean? 


I tried traditional talk therapy and counseling off and on in my 20s and early 30s for “garden variety” stressors like getting dumped, repaying student loans, working for bad bosses, arguing with my mother, and being jobless for a while during the Recession. I regularly felt small, broken, embarrassed and talked down to in traditional counseling. I also had some trauma, and retelling the stories always made me feel worse. 

Thankfully, a couple of the counselors I saw made me feel very seen and heard, and they never looked at me like I had an “adjustment disorder” just for being normal and doing my best to deal with some fairly common, normal shit. (If you are reading this, you know who you are, and I bless you.)


Thankfully, I addressed the underlying nutritional causes for some of my mood issues and found some practitioners who were able to help me heal some family and personal trauma. 


I also had Flower Essences, which I credit with a huge part of my healing and evolution. It was the process of healing myself that helped me learn Flower Essences.


But back to you. Know that I am not a mental health professional or a doctor. I am a coach and spiritual mentor. I do not diagnose or treat any medical or mental health condition. And if you have one that is well-managed with the appropriate treatment and now need the kind of practical and spiritual help I offer, I’m here. 


Once any clinically-significant issues are addressed with the appropriate professional help, I am here to help you stop feeling like you’re broken and help you start getting what you want. 


My approach is behavioral, practical and spiritual — which is different from the disease/disorder model of the world.


If you have any questions about whether you’re a candidate for this work, talk to me, and talk to your doctor before making any decision.

Great question. I generally recommend that if you are in the acute, early stages of trauma or another mental health condition, you follow the advice of your doctor before signing up for this program.

Coaching and mentoring are not the same as mental health treatment or therapy. We focus on practical things like communication skills, handling conflict, and emotional intelligence. We also explore the realm of the unseen, the imagination, the spirit, and archetypal imagery.

And in energy work, with Flower Essences, visualization-based processes and emotional processing, we are likely to encounter trauma that your body is wanting to release. This is nothing to be ashamed of; every human has some degree of trauma.

As a Certified Deep Dive Coach, I am trained to hold nonjudgmental space for my clients and their challenging emotions and traumas, while keeping my own “stuff” far away from your session. I am also committed to my own spiritual evolution and emotional hygiene.

It is possible that you could be “triggered” or upset by something you experience in the course of working with me. My work is not the surface-y fluff that you’ve outgrown.

This is part of why my work is not for everybody, and working with me one-on-one is best suited for people who have already done the initial stages of their healing work.

While I do everything I can to create a safe environment for us to have frank discussions and practice new communication skills so that we can improve our behavioral responses to stuff in the world, “stuff” may come up for you.

In coaching, mentoring and energy work, each person is responsible for themselves, is an adult, and is expected to maintain any course of treatment they are already doing.

None of what I offer is medical or mental health treatment. I am not a therapist or doctor, and my programs are not a substitute for any kind of medical or mental health treatment.

For many who get tired of telling their story in therapy, mindset work and thought work seems like the magic missing piece: “wow! My thoughts ultimately create my results!” 

 

Unfortunately, a great deal of coaching available today is merely prescriptive: “therefore, think more positive thoughts.”

 

And so the tendency for a lot of smart, self-aware women is to then judge themselves for having negative thoughts and uncomfortable emotions. The inner dialogue goes something like this: 

 

“My thoughts create my reality, therefore I suck if I can’t stop thinking the negative ones. I see other women manifesting money, promotions, romantic partners…I’m just as capable and smart but these negative thoughts get in the way. Therefore, I must be the weirdo who can’t stop thinking them. OMG, what is wrong with me?”

 

It’s like the old adage of when you have a hammer, everything is a nail. But sometimes trying to think or reason your way through a problem is not the tool that’s needed.

 

This is why mindset work, without processing emotion and addressing the energetic, doesn’t go deep enough to be transformational. Mindset alone doesn’t enlist the power of your emotions and energy body. That’s why you might still be frustrated with certain issues after lots of mindset work.

 

My method addresses all these deficiencies, because that’s what I had to do to heal myself. What I do with my coaching/mentoring/healing clients is equally grounded in the practical, action-based and behavioral, and in the energetic.

 

I combine the Life Coach School tools (e.g., the Model), and spiritual approaches such as creative visualization, Bach Flower Essences and Feminine Energy in a way that you won’t find anywhere else.

That’s a really good thing to ask yourself. I believe it depends on the situation.


Say for example you are currently doing a program that is subject-specific, like advancing your career or losing weight. 


If you feel like you need additional support to really believe you can and will make the changes those programs are designed to help you do, my combination of Deep Dive coaching and Flower Essences can be a great support for you. With me, you will get the level of attention and support to swiftly go straight to the heart of the core beliefs that stand in the way of you getting the most out of some other topic-specific work you are doing.


But sometimes, I recommend that my clients simplify: Do less journaling. Do fewer routines. Skip the gratitude practice morning, noon and night — and just relax!


Many well-intentioned women overload their plate with self-improvement efforts. But often, less is more. This is a big reason why I am such an advocate of using Flower Essences along with the Deep Dive coaching sessions. 


When you have that energetic support operating in the background without you having to “DO” things like writing out more affirmations, or meditate and journal for more than 20 minutes each per day, you are freed up to just live life and not constantly be on the warpath of fixing yourself. 


And when you receive a Deep Dive coaching session from me, we go right to the heart of your assumed and not always fully-conscious beliefs. It’s remarkably efficient.

When you sign up for a package of coaching sessions, you’ll be invited to schedule them on days and times that work for you. Each session is one hour long and is conducted via Zoom. I require you to be in a safe place free of distractions (not in a moving vehicle, not in a coffee shop).


I am typically available Monday through Thursday for sessions.


I recommend that my clients schedule sessions every 7-10 days.


If you are already doing other coaching, healing or energy work with someone else, that’s great!


I do like you to keep in touch with me via Slack. After you sign up, I will invite you to a private Slack channel, where I will give you written coaching support Monday through Thursday during regular business hours, Pacific time (Seattle, WA, USA). You may focus on one coaching issue per week to Slack, and I will respond about once every 24 hours. (You can bring any issue — it does not have to be the same one we coached on during your live Zoom session.) Sometimes your most powerful shifts can just come from contemplating a thought-provoking question.


Following your first coaching session, I will mail you a custom Flower Essence blend. You might stay on the same blend during the entire duration of your package, but usually there are slight changes as you make progress.


Additional Terms and Conditions applying to your use of this information and my services are posted here.

Sessions are conducted via Zoom.

The sessions are hybrid of: (1) Deep Dive inquiry to uncover what you’re not seeing about the problems and issues you bring to the call (everyone, no matter how advanced, has blind spots!), (2) meditations and visualization exercises I guide you through, to assist you in forming new neurosynaptic connections and meanings, (3) interactive role play, sharing and discussion, and (4) teaching and reflection on Flower Essences that are part of your healing journey.

If you wish to record the session, I will keep an archival copy in your file.
No human is ever completely “done;” we are always evolving.

That does not mean that you will need any one coach or healer forever.

Anybody who tells you it’s going to take YEARS is probably just trying to oversell you, especially if you are doing or have already done other work on an issue.

While some people might just need 90 days, some people need six to twelve months to fully transform a longstanding issue.

It’s also possible to know you are complete with a certain phase even if all of the shifts are still integrating for some time after completion.

So, new clients make a commitment of 90 days, for consistency and the best chance of success.

After that, I will offer you my perspective, and you are always in charge of how long you want to work with any practitioner or modality.

I am a firm believer in offering my services in the spirit of mutual respect for our respective resources (money and time).

You have to fully show up to this work — but have my full support to self actualize in ways that few women even dream of. My clients have reported results like:

  • “Rewiring” of the nervous system so that painful memories no longer interfere with their current goals.
  • Finally no longer believing limiting things about themselves.
  • Making decisions to please themselves and not other people — decisions that they’ve been putting off for years.
  • More confidence speaking up at work.
  • Saying NO easily in situations where before it was extremely uncomfortable.
  • The courage to ask for what they want and need — personally and professionally.
  • Remaining much calmer in high-conflict situations.
  • Getting along better with their romantic partner.
  • Better work-life balance and taking better care of their health and fitness.
  • Feeling renewed interest and passion for their work.
  • Raises and new jobs!
  • I’ve also had clients get marriage proposals from their partners during the time they’re working with me, but I give them 100% of the credit for that. 🙂

I do offer single Tarot readings combined with Deep Dive Coaching, which are very powerful.


If you want to finally heal longstanding blocks and issues that have resisted full resolution through other modalities, you know that just talking it out — even with intuitives and healers — doesn’t do the trick.



The Flower Essence Intensive is a wholly new experience, because you are supported continuously for 90 days and you don’t have to wait for a session to make progress.

Sign up here.

My training and certifications are listed below:
  • Certified Professional Coach, The Life Coach School, 2020
  • Certified Advanced Deep Dive Coach, Bev Aron, 2021
  • Flower Essence Society Professional Course, 2019
  • Juris Doctor, Georgia State University College of Law, 2004, cum laude
  • Graduate of Gerry Spence Trial Lawyers College, 2012
  • Professional Psychodrama Training Workshop with John Nolte & Kaitlin Larimer, 2014, Corbett, Oregon
  • Reiki Master, 2003
 

I have spent half of my life in client service, first in law, and then in coaching and healing work. I have worked with Flower Essences for half of my life as well. All along, I have shared my spiritual gifts.

Trauma has played a significant role in my family, so I have enormous compassion and empathy along with a dose of personal experience alongside my Deep Dive training in the area.

I also have additional years of study in Neuro-Linguistic Programming that informs my work, although I have not pursued that certification.

A Deep Dive Coach is a Life Coach School-certified coach who has additionally completed an advanced training with Master Coach Bev Aron. Deep Dive Coaches use the cognitive behavioral therapy approaches (i.e., the Model) taught by the Life Coach School, but have a much deeper foundation in attachment theory, neuroscience and current understanding of trauma. I certified with Bev Aron in December of 2021. 

I come from a long line of frugal Scots, so I totally get this question.

There are a lot of things in life that are a hell of a lot more expensive than taking responsibility for your emotional and spiritual wellness. It’s all the ways we tend to spend money when we are unfulfilled and frustrated.

Similarly, you might be able to get a 99-cent “value” meal at some drive-through, but the long-term cost of eating crap food is a whole lot more.

The fee for working with me for 90 days is about the same as what one might typically spend on a 7-to-10 day vacation, but self-actualization is like a diamond — it’s forever. It’s yours to keep, long after your tan has faded.

If you are working with me on business coaching and you are self-employed, I will provide you with my W-9 or TD1 for tax purposes. Consult with your CPA about whatever deductions you might be able to claim.
Yes! I help women in historically male-occupied careers like law, medicine, executive leadership and STEM fields, and historically male-occupied roles like simply owning your own business.

If your work is something that relatively few women did 50 or 100 years ago, and you have a commitment to personal development, you’re in the right place.


Testimonials

"SaraEllen is an awesome coach for women lawyers! I'm just finishing up the Lawyergoddess Workshop and highly recommend it. I'm more calm, confident and effective in my law practice and personal life. I've learned so much from SaraEllen's wise and practical coaching as well as from the other members of my Lawyergoddess workshop cohort. It's been so fun to interact with like-minded women lawyers from all over the continent. It's reassuring I'm not alone with imposter syndrome, overwhelm, procrastination, indecisiveness, general discontent and a feeling there must be more.

The Lawyergoddess program has helped me tremendously with all of that. I've had more growth professionally in the last six months than over the previous 16 years.

One of the most valuable things is being less hard on myself. I have more energy and time for getting things done when I can interrupt negative self talk and unnecessary worries. I've been in private practice for 16 years. I'm a partner with a successful firm. I have earned respect from clients and colleagues. Despite that, I was feeling pretty immature and insecure in myself as a lawyer. I'm learning to trust and respect myself more. I'm learning my style and strengths, and refining the vibe I put out in the world to get the results I want for my life.

My circumstances are the same, but after SaraEllen's program, my perspective is shifting. The tools SaraEllen teaches have empowered me to manage my thoughts and time better, and achieve a better quality of life and law practice.

I've done many other self-help programs and methods, but the Lawyergoddess program brings everything all together perfectly, like it was made just for me. It's key that SaraEllen is a practicing lawyer. She gets it. She's also a great listener, and she's so funny!

Thanks to the Universe and Facebook targeted marketing for connecting me with SaraEllen, the Lawyergoddess Workshop and the Inner Peace for Busy Lawyers podcast!"
H.G.
Montana

“SaraEllen is wonderful at what she does and should be proud. She is very intuitive with people and has a graceful way of helping clients realize for themselves the things she is seeing. When clients are not able to see it themselves, SaraEllen does a good job of pointing it out without being critical. And her superpower is Analogies 🙂

Thank you for instilling hope, confidence, and peace within me. I have transitioned from viewing myself as an employee to a boss and entrepreneur. By learning about why it is important to just make decisions and later adjust if necessary—rather than just wavering in the wind—-it has motivated me to make quicker decisions and I have. I have also been showing up more as the authority rather than seeking everyone else’s opinion. Going in to court/meetings/phone calls, I now know that my empathy and femininity is my superpower rather than my weakness, and I don’t have to “be” any way but myself. Two other critical takeaways for me have been 1) receiving and developing tools for dealing with difficult opposing counsel and 2) learning that boundaries are created WITHIN and how to hold true to those!”

S.B.

Colorado

“I was overwhelmed with being a single parent and busy litigator, constantly stressed about not having enough time to get anything done, full of worry and self-doubt, and emotionally drained.  I felt like everything sucked.  

Through coaching, SaraEllen taught me how to set boundaries at work and take back my calendar.  She also taught me how to honor myself and build self-confidence by reminding me that my thoughts are not facts, and how to pivot negative thoughts into positive thoughts that serve me and my goals.  

I am in a much better place now thanks to SaraEllen’s coaching.  For anyone on the fence about coaching, take a leap of faith and sign up to work with SaraEllen.  You will not regret it.” 

B.M.

Indiana

“Just finished an amazing coaching session with SaraEllen! SaraEllen…you are a true gift! I walked away feeling empowered and with new tools for my toolbox – both personally and professionally – that I cannot wait to put into practice.” 

M.S.

North Carolina

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