Have you ever wondered,
Have you ever wondered,
…and that’s when everything you desire rushes toward you.
I get you results faster, so that you get what you came for and no longer need me.
I do this by combining the best of coaching, mentoring, and healing, and omitting the filler, the obvious, and the bullshit that you might have already tried.
It can help to delineate the differences between coaches, mentors and healers.
A COACH is someone who can help you see what you’re not seeing, similar to a sports coach.
Coaching differs from mental health therapy in that a coach does not diagnose you with a condition or begin helping you from the assumption that there’s something wrong that needs fixing. Coaching starts from the assumption that you have your own answers and wisdom.
My coaching method uses inquiry to help you untangle the errors and limits in your thinking and beliefs so that you can create different outcomes in your life. I am certified by both the Life Coach School and Bev Aron’s Advanced Deep Dive Coaching institute. I have additional hours of training in Psychodrama.
My speciality is getting you to the place where your negative beliefs just become completely obsolete, replaced with the truth. And I love it when someone thinks they’re a “hard case.”
A MENTOR is someone who generally gives good advice and can help you make connections in your career. A mentor has walked in the same or similar shoes. A mentor gives advice from her personal experience, and inspires you to more. “If she can do it, I can do it too.”
I include mentoring with many of my clients who need specific strategies and conversation scripts for conflicts or power struggles at work or in their romantic relationship. My advice and strategies for how to handle difficult conversations and situations are based on 16+ years working in high-conflict patriarchal environments. I can teach you how to also be powerful in similar situations or places, while remaining feminine. I can help you powerfully navigate anything you have going on at work or at home.
A HEALER helps you remember the truth of your wholeness and power. If you have ever experienced frustration that you had a therapy or coaching session, or went to a workshop, but the positive effect didn’t last, it is because these things gave you great things to think about intellectually, but didn’t shift things on an energetic level.
The body stores emotions. You can try to talk yourself into a new positive belief all you want, but without energetic support, it may not stick, or it may take a whole lot longer. This is the experience many smart women have when they do years of therapy, or a multitude of different personal development courses, but remain very frustrated and stuck in one or more areas of their lives.
This is why I offer energetic and spiritual healing alongside coaching and mentoring. Flower Essences are vibrational remedies that support you between coaching/mentoring sessions and make the entire process go faster. You can read more about Flower Essences here.
I totally remember feeling that way. I can say that working with someone who combines coaching, mentoring and energy healing helps you grow and evolve much faster than you could on your own.
And if you are reading this, you might have been trying lots of different things for many years to manage stress, overcome unhappiness, or manifest your soulmate or some other dream.
“Doing it on our own” is what many of us smart women try to do, for years, because we think somehow we’re weak or will look dumb if we ask for help. And then we make ourselves wrong when we’re still struggling after all our effort.
Some smart women try to intellectualize their way through the pain of unfulfillment, and look to their careers to fill a void. “I worked so hard for this achievement, why am I so unhappy?” And then they look around and wonder why there is no mentoring or support where they work.
Unfortunately, many workplaces are stuck in old patriarchal ways of doing things, where women are afraid that some other woman is going to take their seat at the table, leaving all the women isolated and guarded.
My mission is to uplift women and normalize the feminine values of collaboration, cooperation and support as traits showing strength and empowerment, and not as a sign of weakness. Reaching out for help is an empowered thing for you to do.
Many women find that continuously repeating their negative stories in conventional mental health therapy doesn’t do anything to shift the results in their life.
And…often, they are tired of being smarter than their therapist. Know what I mean?
I tried traditional talk therapy and counseling off and on in my 20s and early 30s for “garden variety” stressors like getting dumped, repaying student loans, working for bad bosses, arguing with my mother, and being jobless for a while during the Recession. I regularly felt small, broken, embarrassed and talked down to in traditional counseling. I also had some trauma, and retelling the stories always made me feel worse.
Thankfully, a couple of the counselors I saw made me feel very seen and heard, and they never looked at me like I had an “adjustment disorder” just for being normal and doing my best to deal with some fairly common, normal shit. (If you are reading this, you know who you are, and I bless you.)
Thankfully, I addressed the underlying nutritional causes for some of my mood issues and found some practitioners who were able to help me heal some family and personal trauma. I also had Flower Essences, which I credit with a huge part of my healing and evolution. It was the process of healing myself that helped me learn Flower Essences.
But back to you. Know that I am not a mental health professional or a doctor. I am a coach and spiritual mentor. I do not diagnose or treat any medical or mental health condition. And if you have one that is well-managed with the appropriate treatment and now need the kind of practical and spiritual help I offer, I’m here.
Once any clinically-significant issues are addressed with the appropriate professional help, I am here to help you stop feeling like you’re broken and help you start getting what you want. My approach is behavioral, practical and spiritual — which is different from the disease/disorder model of the world.
If you have any questions about whether you’re a candidate for this work, talk to me, and talk to your doctor before making any decision.
For many who get tired of telling their story in therapy, mindset work and thought work seems like the magic missing piece: “wow! My thoughts ultimately create my results!” Unfortunately, a great deal of coaching available today is merely prescriptive: “therefore, think more positive thoughts.”
And so the tendency for a lot of smart, self-aware women is to then judge themselves for having negative thoughts and uncomfortable emotions. The inner dialogue goes something like this:
“My thoughts create my reality, therefore I suck if I can’t stop thinking them. I see other women manifesting money, promotions, romantic partners…I’m just as capable and smart but these negative thoughts get in the way. Therefore, I must be the weirdo who can’t stop thinking them. OMG, what is wrong with me?”
It’s like the old adage of when you have a hammer, everything is a nail. But sometimes trying to think or reason your way through a problem is not the tool that’s needed.
This is why mindset work, without processing emotion and addressing the energetic, doesn’t go deep enough to be transformational. Mindset alone doesn’t enlist the power of your emotions and energy body. That’s why you might still be frustrated with certain issues after lots of mindset work.
My method addresses all these deficiencies, because that’s what I had to do to heal myself. What I do with my coaching/mentoring/healing clients is equally grounded in the practical, action-based and behavioral, and in the energetic.
That’s a really good thing to ask yourself. I believe it depends on the situation.
Say for example you are currently doing a program that is subject-specific, like advancing your career or losing weight. If you feel like you need additional support to really believe you can and will make the changes those programs are designed to help you do, my combination of Deep Dive coaching and Flower Essences can be a great support for you. With me, you will get the level of attention and support to swiftly go straight to the heart of the core beliefs that stand in the way of you getting the most out of some other topic-specific work you are doing.
But sometimes, I recommend that my clients simplify: Do less journaling. Do fewer routines. Skip the gratitude practice morning, noon and night — and just relax!
Many well-intentioned women overload their plate with self-improvement efforts. But often, less is more. This is a big reason why I am such an advocate of using Flower Essences along with the Deep Dive coaching sessions.
When you have that energetic support operating in the background without you having to “DO” things like writing out more affirmations, or meditate and journal for more than 20 minutes each per day, you are freed up to just live life and not constantly be on the warpath of fixing yourself.
And when you receive a Deep Dive coaching session from me, we go right to the heart of your assumed and not always fully-conscious beliefs. It’s remarkably efficient.
“SaraEllen is wonderful at what she does and should be proud. She is very intuitive with people and has a graceful way of helping clients realize for themselves the things she is seeing. When clients are not able to see it themselves, SaraEllen does a good job of pointing it out without being critical. And her superpower is Analogies 🙂
Thank you for instilling hope, confidence, and peace within me. I have transitioned from viewing myself as an employee to a boss and entrepreneur. By learning about why it is important to just make decisions and later adjust if necessary—rather than just wavering in the wind—-it has motivated me to make quicker decisions and I have. I have also been showing up more as the authority rather than seeking everyone else’s opinion. Going in to court/meetings/phone calls, I now know that my empathy and femininity is my superpower rather than my weakness, and I don’t have to “be” any way but myself. Two other critical takeaways for me have been 1) receiving and developing tools for dealing with difficult opposing counsel and 2) learning that boundaries are created WITHIN and how to hold true to those!”
“I was overwhelmed with being a single parent and busy litigator, constantly stressed about not having enough time to get anything done, full of worry and self-doubt, and emotionally drained. I felt like everything sucked.
Through coaching, SaraEllen taught me how to set boundaries at work and take back my calendar. She also taught me how to honor myself and build self-confidence by reminding me that my thoughts are not facts, and how to pivot negative thoughts into positive thoughts that serve me and my goals.
I am in a much better place now thanks to SaraEllen’s coaching. For anyone on the fence about coaching, take a leap of faith and sign up to work with SaraEllen. You will not regret it.”
“Just finished an amazing coaching session with SaraEllen! SaraEllen…you are a true gift! I walked away feeling empowered and with new tools for my toolbox – both personally and professionally – that I cannot wait to put into practice.”